Do you know that “we can’t afford that” is a bummer of a phrase? It just drags everyone down. It has no place in frugal life and here’s why:
- It’s a victim complex. Our finances don’t mug us, they don’t steal from us and they don’t plot to do us harm. Our finances suck when we make bad decisions and they’re good when we make good ones. We are in control of our fate and “we can’t afford that” is the cry of a victim not a master of their own destiny. If you want something bad enough, you’ll work out a way to afford it and if not, then you don’t. So, say this instead, “I don’t want that bad enough.” That’s you being in charge and it’s much less depressing.
- It is a downer. When you cast yourself in the role of a victim, it makes you feel sorry for yourself. The more you feel sorry for yourself, the more helpless you feel – the less likely you are to do something to change your life. So, if you do want something badly enough – say, “I am going to find a way to afford that.” And then do it.
- It means you’re comparing. Comparisons are awful. No matter who you are in this world, if you look hard enough, you can find someone else to envy. That destroys your happiness and contentment. It’s why so many rich and wealthy people keep on doing things that make them unhappy, they’re trying to measure up to someone else. Don’t do it. Say, “We chose not to buy things so that we could have a better future, I am happy about that.”
See, it’s easy to stop saying that awful phrase.
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